10 Nov 5 Things I Wish I Knew Going Into Motherhood

Becoming a mother is one of life’s most transformative experiences – beautiful, emotional, and, at times, overwhelming. Nothing quite prepares you for how much love you’ll feel or how much your world can shift in a single moment.

We spoke to moms about what they learned in those early days. From the small truths that helped them navigate sleepless nights to the emotional highs and lows, and the quiet moments of connection in between, they’ve shared it all. Their advice is honest, real, and filled with reminders that you’re doing better than you think.

Through it all, gentle self-care and simple, grounding habits can make all the difference as you settle into this new season.

1. There’s No “Right” Way to Be a Mom

One of the most comforting things many moms told us was this: there’s no right or wrong way to be a mom. Every baby, every body, and every journey is different, and that’s okay.

It’s easy to compare yourself to other moms or feel like you’re falling short, but motherhood isn’t a checklist. It’s a relationship that grows and evolves over time. So, give yourself permission to find your own rhythm.

2. Ask for (and Accept) Help

Many of us are used to doing things on our own, but motherhood reminds us that we’re not meant to. One mom shared, “Ask for help and accept the help.” Another added, “You are not alone. Every mother has been down this path and all its emotions.”

Let your village show up for you, whether that’s a partner, a friend, a family member, or your community. Receiving support when you need it is an important form of gentle self-care.

3. Take It One Day at a Time

The early weeks can feel like a blur of feeds, naps, and emotions. Some days, everything flows; others, nothing seems to go as planned. One mom told us, “Take it one day at a time. This is an emotional, exciting journey, and you will be okay.”

Everything truly is a phase. From cluster feeding to sleepless nights, each challenge eventually softens into something new. Try to find small, steady anchors like a nourishing meal or five minutes to stretch and move your body.

4. Trust Your Instincts

There’s so much advice out there, some helpful, some not. As one mom wisely shared, “Don’t take unsolicited advice. Follow your instincts and your gut because you are the one who knows yourself, your baby, and your family the most.”

Motherhood teaches you to trust your intuition, that quiet, inner knowing that’s been there all along. Listen to it. You’re learning together, and that’s enough.

5. Care for Yourself, Too

It’s easy to pour all your love and energy into your baby and forget that you need care, too. But it’s those simple, intentional acts that help sustain you in the long run.

That might look like stepping outside for a few moments in the sun, enjoying a wholesome meal, or taking a slow shower while someone else holds your baby. As one mom said, “Do things on your time and take time out, just you and your baby.”

And for those unexpected challenges, like mastitis or fatigue, remember to reach out early, rest often, and show yourself grace.

A Gentle Reminder

Motherhood is not about perfection. It’s about showing up, even when you’re tired, and learning as you go.

As one mom beautifully put it, “Everything is a phase. Go with the flow.” So breathe, be kind to yourself, and know that you’re doing beautifully.

The truth is, no one really knows what they’re doing at first, we all just find our way, one tender, loving moment at a time.