If I had a rand for every time I\u2019ve heard how important it is to love yourself, I would be a rich woman by now. However, the penny had never dropped, until recently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lying in bed one night I had quite an uncomfortable insight that helped me to understand how central the love that we have for ourselves is to our experience of the world around us. In other words, the more you can love yourself, the happier and more positive your life will be. Sounds simple but let me expand…<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can only give and receive as much love to the world around you, as you feel for yourself, and the reason is quite simple: every single experience you have; everything you see and everything you don’t see; every opinion and judgement you have is a projection of who you believe you are. <\/strong>The world around you is a mirror showing you all the things you do and don’t believe about yourself. For instance, if you believe you are a loving and beautiful person, you will find yourself noticing those same qualities in others, perhaps because you attract more people like that, or just because you don\u2019t have any negative beliefs about yourself in that regard that make you feel uncomfortable or shame when you see it in others, which of course probably makes you shy away from seeing it in the world around you at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I will use a real-life example to share how I got to a place where I really \u201cgot this.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n My husband and I have been on quite an accelerated journey of self-discovery and personal transformation and as my consciousness has grown bit by bit I have had the strength to start owning the fact that the judgements and fears that I project onto others are actually my own. But where this really got me was when I lay there and looked into the past and saw that so many of things that I had criticised; worried about; and judged my husband for were actually my own insecurities and fears about who I am. Like for instance, if I found myself worrying about financial security, I would typically start looking at my husband and worrying about or criticising him for not being \u201cstrong enough\u201d or even for not \u201cworrying\u201d about it as much as me. The result is of course that I continue to project and create this ill-feeling that in fact stems from a lack of trust in myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And it was standing in that place where I could clearly see how I was projecting my own fears onto a person I love so deeply that hit deep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Everything starts and ends with yourself. You truly do influence and change the world around you positively, and by that, I mean the world that YOU EXPERIENCE around you, by learning to love and forgive yourself more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I am sure we can all agree that our opinion of anything depends on the framework or lens that we look through. And if you are looking through wounded eyes and a heart that carries personal shame, dislike or lack of respect to the self, it will cloud how clearly you can see things for what they are. It will cloud how absolutely you can love and receive love and it just gets in the way of seeing life for the miracle that it is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Have the courage to look at where you believe yourself to be inadequate and persevere to forgive and change those beliefs. Because every time you are confronted with an experience that touches on those beliefs, you will re-act from that wounded place of fear and project it back out into the world around you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Start your morning with a small bit of exercise. Whether it’s a 10-minute stretch, or an energy-filled run, a walk somewhere outside, or a yoga class. The endorphins our body naturally produces will unconsciously make you feel better. The “better feeling” will take you into your day and automatically help to reframe your view for the better. I know you’ve heard this before, but instead of rolling your eyes – really think about it. What determines a bad mood? What perpetuates a bad mood? And just try it. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If I had a rand for every time I\u2019ve heard how important it is to love yourself, I would be a rich woman by now. However, the penny had never dropped, until recently. Lying in bed one night I had quite an uncomfortable insight that…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":54232,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,120,129],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nONE SIMPLE PRACTICE TO Reframe Your WORLD EVERY DAY <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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